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Boosting Your Confidence from Within: 10 Keys to Unshakable Leadership

By Lynnecia S. Eley | Tuesday, September 12, 2023 | 1:19 PM ET

Confidence is at the root of effective leadership. Your confidence as a leader is the invisible force that empowers you to make decisions, inspire/influence your team, and face challenges with resolutions in mind. While some people may appear naturally confident, it's good to understand that confidence can be cultivated and strengthened from within. Self-confidence is not about arrogance or an inflated sense of self-worth. It's the belief in your abilities, your God-given gifts, judgment, and your capacity to handle whatever comes your way. When you're confident, you radiate assurance and inspire trust in others around you. In doing so, your teams are more likely to follow your lead and you're better equipped to tackle tough challenges.

Joel Olsteen once said, “you can’t judge what’s in you by what’s around you.” In other words, don’t let your environment or the challenges around you cause you to abort your mission or knock you off course from being a courageous leader. In this article, I share how you can tap into the confidence you have stored within.

Why Does Confidence Matters in Leadership?

  • Decision-Making: Confident leaders make decisions more decisively. They trust their judgment, analyze situations objectively, and are not easily swayed by doubt, emotions, or external pressure.

  • Inspiration: Confidence is contagious! When you exude confidence, your team members are more likely to feel inspired and motivated to be their best.

  • Resilience: Confidence helps you bounce back from setbacks. Instead of dwelling on failures, confident leaders see them as opportunities for growth and coaching.

  • Communication: Confident leaders communicate more effectively. They express their ideas clearly and persuasively, bridging better understanding among team members.

How can you boost your confidence from within?

1. Self-Awareness: Know Your Strengths and Weaknesses

Start by gaining an understanding of yourself. Identify your strengths and weaknesses. Self-awareness allows you to leverage your talents while actively working on areas that need improvement. Keep a journal to reflect on your experiences and track your progress.

2. Set Achievable Goals

Confidence often stems from a sense of accomplishment. Set clear, achievable goals for yourself. Break larger objectives into smaller, manageable tasks. Celebrate your successes along the way, no matter how small they may seem. This reinforces your belief in your abilities.

3. Develop Your Skills

Continuous learning is an anchor of self-confidence. Invest in your personal and professional development. Attend workshops, take courses, and seek out opportunities to acquire new skills. The more you know, the more confident you'll become.

4. Positive Self-Talk: Challenge Your Inner Critic

We all have an inner critic that can undermine our confidence. Challenge negative self-talk and replace it with positive affirmations. Remind yourself of your past successes and capabilities. Believe in your potential to overcome challenges.

5. Embrace Failure as a Learning Opportunity

Failure is not the end but a stepping stone to success. Embrace failure as a chance to learn and grow. Analyze what went wrong, make necessary adjustments, and move forward with newfound wisdom. Each failure brings you one step closer to success.

6. Practice Self-Compassion

Be kind to yourself. Acknowledge that you're not perfect, and that's perfectly okay. Treat yourself with the same compassion and understanding that you offer to others. Self-compassion and grace helps you maintain confidence even in the face of setbacks.

7. Step Out of Your Comfort Zone

Growth occurs outside your comfort zone. Challenge yourself by taking on tasks or projects that push your boundaries. As you successfully navigate unfamiliar territory, your confidence will naturally increase.

8. Surround Yourself with Positive Influences

Surround yourself with supportive and positive influences. Choose to spend time with people who uplift and encourage you. A strong support network can boost your confidence during challenging times.

9. Practice, Practice, Practice

Confidence often grows with experience. It’s a mental attitude that you put into practice. The more you practice a skill or confront a fear, the more confident you become in that area. Embrace opportunities for practice and learning.

10. Celebrate Your Achievements

Don't forget to celebrate along the way. Recognize your accomplishments, no matter how minor they may seem. Celebrations provide positive reinforcement and boost your confidence.

Building unshakable confidence won’t happen overnight and will be an ongoing journey. It requires faith, courage, dedication, self-awareness, and a commitment to personal growth. As you build your leadership confidence, you'll find that it not only pushes you forward in your career but also positively impacts every aspect of your life. Believe in yourself, embrace your potential, and lead with the unshakable confidence that defines great leaders.


Lynnecia S. Eley is an educator, author and multi-brand founder. As CEO of She Can Inspire, LLC she is a best-selling author and confidence coach providing guidance and support to help women and young adults feel self-assured in their abilities to Birth with Purpose.

Lynnecia is also one of the founders of Two Queens Media, Soigne’ + Swank Magazine® and Eta Rho Sigma Sorority, Inc. - all brands that promote and support women, community growth in business, education, and the media/publishing space. Lynnecia is also a recipient of the President’s Lifetime Achievement award in recognition of her service to women and girls through volunteerism and leadership. Connect with her via email at:


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